April 10, 2013

Compulsive Lying and more

Right now my husband and I have a guy from his company at work and his new wife staying with us. The plan was for them to stay just until they got other housing squared away either on post (like they want) or off. He moved in almost a month ago and she got here just a couple of days later. I have never really been a huge fan of him, there's always been something about him that "rubbed me the wrong way." After him living here for 2 weeks my husband came to me and said that he thought that he was a compulsive liar. He got online and showed me the articles that he had been reading and I agreed. Well, turns out that his lying had finally started to catch up to him at work and since my husband works with him it spilled over into our home life. After sitting down and talking to his new wife, who knew nothing about all the lies, we all three decided that the best thing to do would be to confront him about it. So we did, and all we got from that were more lies. Last Saturday we tired to help them do a budget because neither one had ever really done a budget and to set up a menu to help save money at the grocery store. While she was very receptive to everything and really wanted to work to save their marriage and fix their finances he was a complete and total jerk. My husband and I even went as far as to buy all their groceries for the week for them! He couldn't bring himself to even be polite then! When we got home from that horrible experience, I told my husband that I couldn't do it anymore; as soon as their "rent" was up they had to go! I have never in my life been treated so horribly! He will stand there and tell us how horrible we are because we drive "older" cars/refuse to buy a brand new car, try to save money like crazy and other things! I can't take it. Yes, we eat really healthy. Yes, we are cheap. Yes, we're simple, but we're happy, love each other and have an amazing relationship. Up until about a week ago I had never heard of compulsive/pathological liars. These people lie constantly and can't stop themselves. Not much information is done available on it, but what's there is totally shocking! The next 10 days or so can't go by quick enough. I can't wait to have our house back to just the two of us! As far as I am aware they have not squared away a place to stay at all and while I feel bad for her I couldn't care less over all. If you treat people like shit you deserve shit!

As far as our ongoing infertility battle goes we are hoping to have our third IUI this week, most likely on Saturday. When I went in for my follicle scan she didn't seem to find a really good follicle this time. She was able to determine a "dominate side" so hopefully something will have grown to a nice plump size for my scan tomorrow. I've decided that if it doesn't work this month then I'm going to ask my doctor for a referral for a second opinion. I know that this kind of thing doesn't happen right away, but she told us that our chances of success start going down after 3 iui's, and I just will feel better I think if I can get a second opinion from a different doctor and hopefully not one employed by the United States Army or government. I've started looking into different fertility clinics in Washington state to see what their success rates and such are. Does anyone have any suggestions for a good fertility doctor there? Hopefully it won't come to that. Ideally the 3rd time will be a charm for us and we'll have a baby in January for our 5th anniversary, but me being me I want to have a back up plan just in case.

Has this week been hard for anyone else? This has been a horrible week for us in the Ward house. My poor husband has spent most of the last 3 days out in the field doing some random training. As if training wasn't bad enough it has been really cold and snowing. I think that we have had approx 3 inches or so since Sunday. Today we finally started to see sunshine again, but it's been really windy, which in turn means really cold. My poor dear husband is so exhausted from his erratic sleep schedule and sore from the equipment he is having to carry. Hopefully tonight will be his last night in the field this week. I on the other hand have been really depressed about our infertility situation. A friend of mine had her baby last week and I really honestly thought that I would be pregnant when she had her baby. I feel like it is impossible for me to get pregnant. I have never had the joy/fear of peeing on a stick and seeing 2 pink lines. I honestly feel like it will never happen for me. In fact tonight I was watching CBS Evening News (at least that's what I think it was) and they were discussing surrogacy in India. I actually found myself considering that option! When I realized where my thoughts were going I was totally shocked!

Enough of the depressing thoughts...here's to hoping that the third times our time!

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